The first time Remy and I met, my stomach did somersaults. The attraction was instant for both of us, but this was also complicated by the fact that we both happened to be in pretty serious (albeit rocky) relationships already. For weeks we spent time together as friends, growing closer and slowly realizing all that we weren’t getting from our current relationships. It wasn’t long until I realized that this was the person I wanted to spend all my time with, so I knew I at least needed to leave my partner before anyone got seriously hurt. I expressed my feelings to Remy in a poem and a letter, asking that we explore these feelings we have even further, and not be afraid to explode! We were both afraid of the intensity of our feelings, because we had learned to be okay with acceptable. Now that we had extraordinary, I’m not sure we knew what to do with it. When my favorite holiday Halloween came around, I couldn’t wait any longer. We kissed then. It feels like we haven’t stopped kissing since.
How long have you two been vegan:
Remy, 23, and Cheyenne, 21, have been a vegan since the summer of 2010, when we took a life-changing journey across the US and West Coast. We became reunited with nature along the way, and we were inspired to cut all animal products out of our life. Both of us agree it was one of the easiest and best choices either of us have ever made. Even though Remy had been a vegetarian for 5 years prior to this, and Cheyenne had been vegetarian for 4 years, becoming vegan gave us a whole new sense of healthy. Our little 1 year old puppy, Spencer, is the star of our life, and is also vegan (most of the time)!
What was the best part of the proposal:
The proposal took place May, 2009 in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. Salvador Dali is my favorite artist of all time. I have a tattoo inspired by his famous elephants, and his prints hang all over my home. Perhaps this will give you an idea of how excited I was to go to the only Salvador Dali museum in North America during our trip to Florida; I was bouncing off the walls. The museum was fabulous and afterward we took a walk along the bay wall just outside the museum. Walking next to the water we saw a dolphin sunning itself less than 2 feet from the wall. I had never seen a dolphin out of captivity, and I couldn’t stop talking about it all the way back to where we were staying. It had been such an exhilarating afternoon, and I was bathing in the glow of it’s perfection, when all of a sudden Remy popped the question! I was so flushed I could barely do more than giggle: yes! The perfect end to a perfect afternoon.
Have you started planning the wedding:
We just started our wedding plans and of course the two of us have chosen to take on the ambitious task of doing almost everything ourselves. We want to have a zero-waste wedding, at an outdoor location (county park), with a lot of composting and recycling. No plastic! Most of the decorations/centerpieces will be vintage or come from thrift stores in our area! Cheyenne has many crafty friends who have already promised to help with art and decorations for the wedding in our three colors: green, purple, and ivory. Cheyenne’s mom is also a certified marriage officiant which is great because she’s affordable (free and really wants to give us what we want, which is NOT a Christian wedding. We are both fledgling Buddhists (although Remy has a few years experience on me), and we want to incorporate many nontraditional aspects into our wedding. All of the food will be 100% vegan! Remy and I have both become addicted to vegan baking, and we have even been considering making our own wedding cake because we have been struggling to find an affordable vegan bakery in our area!
Since I identify as bisexual and queer, and Remy is trans, we are going to incorporate a lot of queer aspects into our wedding! We will have gender bending/cross-dressing “bridesmaids” and “groomsmen” on both sides of the aisle! Both our families support our wedding, and our veganism, so we can’t wait to get everyone together!
Will your wedding be 100% vegan:
100% vegan of course!
Is your family supportive of your vegan nuptials:
Yes! They are excited to see what we decide to have!